“Maybe who we are isn’t so much about what we do, but rather what we’re capable of when we least expect it. ”
While I can’t say I’m a regular reader of Jodi Picoult’s books, I find this quote a compelling consideration of what makes up character. It’s common enough to say that actions speak louder than words, but her insight might be more accurate.
We often hold a picture of ourselves with is consistent with a certain code of behavior, but until we experience circumstances which challenge that code, we may surprise ourselves.
This cuts both ways, of course. We might think of ourselves in possession of high moral ground until just the right temptation is presented. But we also might find tremendous inner resources in the face of tragedy (a topic we spoke a bit about last week).
In either case, the experience is important. It is the illumination on the path to self-knowledge. Without it, we are in the dark about our character. To me, the implication is clear: We should not avoid these situations, but recognize how they contain great revelatory potential.
We are inherently imperfect, but never more so when we deny who we are. If we wish to be better, either from an ethical or professional perspective, we need to be open to deep and unsettling challenges. We should cultivate an honesty and clarity about our character, shouldn’t we?
In the end: Don’t fear the test. Even if you fail, you have won something in the loss. From there you can build a true understanding of yourself that will ultimately help support where you want to go.
